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She did look rather put off the whole time.

I think she just looks worried she might be the one in the bottom 3. The others there got a lot of praise and she didn't. Plus the girls were leaving left and right. I don't think she was pissed at all. We have been hearing and reading about her lack of confidence. We know she has read the harsh comments on the internet about her body and other things. She is just a scared kid up there.

Firecracker wrote:

I think she just looks worried she might be the one in the bottom 3. The others there got a lot of praise and she didn't. Plus the girls were leaving left and right. I don't think she was pissed at all. We have been hearing and reading about her lack of confidence. We know she has read the harsh comments on the internet about her body and other things. She is just a scared kid up there.

Well she nor James had any worries and all knew it. The one that should of had that look on his face was Stefano but he didn't he actually had a look of peace,(like he knew it would be him finding another seat in bottom three). Lauren needs to stop reading that crud about her cause she is very pretty with a great voice. I would be surprised no change that to shocked if she and Scotty do not make it to the top two or three.

Shannon

Awww for Stefano James has asked him to be his best man for his wedding So very sweet.

http://insidetv.ew.com/2011/04/22/american-idol-stefano-langone-exit-interview/

Stefano says they are brothers

ETA: In that video Stefano is standing next to Kris Allen's picture. I was wondering why the guy looked familiar and then the camera moved for a sec to show a bigger view and I was like hey that is my Kris :)

Shannon

How nice for Stefano to be asked to be the best man. I find it a wee bit odd James didn't ask a long time friend or bandmate from his pre-Idol life though.

You cannot say Lauren had no reason to worry or knew he wouldn't be her. Nobody thought it would be Pia did they? Or Daughtry? Or Doolittle? And the girl is already insecure. None of us can begin to imagine what all is racing through their heads as they stand there. I am sure they all know that it can be them no matter what anybody says or thinks.

Firecracker wrote:

How nice for Stefano to be asked to be the best man. I find it a wee bit odd James didn't ask a long time friend or bandmate from his pre-Idol life though.

You cannot say Lauren had no reason to worry or knew he wouldn't be her. Nobody thought it would be Pia did they? Or Daughtry? Or Doolittle? And the girl is already insecure. None of us can begin to imagine what all is racing through their heads as they stand there. I am sure they all know that it can be them no matter what anybody says or thinks.

I don't find it odd that James did this. Stefano has said the two have become like Brothers so honestly maybe Stefano is the one that is closest to him. I am not going to cry foul cause that just shows how much James truly cares about Stefano and that is amazing.

Shannon

Agreed Angel!!!!

Besides weren't Haley and Jordin bridesmaids at Gina's wedding or was it the other way around and Haley got married? I can't remember. Maybe they weren't bridesmaids but I know they were INVITED and were a special part of the ceremony. So no I don't find it odd at all. This process is grueling and these contestants become incredibly CLOSE through it all. They form lifelong friendships and some become like brothers or sisters to each other. It's not strange to me at all that James would ask this of Stefano. I think it's quite beautiful to be honest and it's a testament to the kind of relationships these kids form with one another!

Cry foul?? Who said foul? A Best Man is different from a Groomsmen like a Maid of Honor is different than a Bridesmaid. USUALLY a Best Man and Maid of Honor is a brother or sister (both my hubbys had their brothers for their Best Man) or long time best friend. NOT saying it is wrong or foul (don't even know why you two ALWAYS jump to the worst about me - it is really getting upsetting!!!!) I just meant even though they have become close during this Idol experience you would think that James would have a childhood long time friend that he is even closer with and ask Stefano to be a Groomsmen. Just surprised - not FOUL! Not wrong. But that's OK. Jump all over me. I'm quite used to it by now. Geez....

Angel would you like me to copy and paste Stefano's conference call? It's pretty long. But if you want I'll be happy to!

FC, I didn't assume the worst about anything. I was not jumping all over you in the least. I was only saying I didn't find the situation odd.

You mean if you were to get married, you wouldn't ask your sister or long time friend as your Maid of Honor, but would choose someone you've known for a couple of months instead? I agree, I think that's odd.

I'm not doubting they have a great friendship, as clearly they do.

cry foul:

to say that something which has happened is unfair or illegal
The opposition parties have cried foul at the president's act, seeing it as a violation of democracy.
(Definition of cry foul from the Cambridge Advanced Learner's Dictionary)



Cry foul was implying I thought something was very wrong about it - that is what cry foul means. And I'm sorry - but when I see AGREED with FOUR exclamation points that seems to imply you felt pretty strongly.

Whatever, done, moving on.....

Here's the AT&T Text Chat from just a little while ago. Took me forever to copy this over. LOL

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Welcome to American Idol Text Chat with Stefano Langone. He has now joined us and is ready for your questions. Just reply to this message to submit your question.

Q from Angela2496: Stefano - you're so cute! And you have a great voice, never stop singing! They showed you talking to the judges at the end of the show, what were you saying?

Stefano answers: Randy just wanted me to keep up with everything I am doing and Jennifer was so supportive. They told me to keep hustlin!

Q from AshLOVESStefano: Hey Stefano :) what made you audition for Idol and did you ever think you would have come this far? Great job and good luck on tour <3

Stefano answers: Everything in my life up to that moment had led me to audition. I knew I was capable but wasn't really sure if it would happen or not.

Q from Marz: Stefano! If u had an invitation to the royal wedding next weekend, who would you take as your + one?!

Stefano answers: I would probably take my dad to something that important or maybe my best friend from back home, Brian

Q from Imnobeautyqueenxo: Stefano, you were my favorite this season! What song had the most meaning to you that you performed?

Stefano answers: Smokie Norful "I need you now" just hit home. Not only with me, but also with America so it was my favorite. I can't wait to start singing my own stuff, whether it is on tour or after that.

Q from Nella: What was your favorite part of American idol?? And I see that James ran up and hugged you at the end, was he like your brother?

Stefano answers: My favorite part was making the bond with James. We were roommates since Hollywood and have lived together for the last 5 months or so...I am going to be the best man at his wedding when that happens. It was also pretty unbelievable to just be sitting at Interscope Records with all the history of that place.

Q from Dee: Which artist & judge on the show inspired you the most ? Also I think you have a good career ahead of you, do you want to go solo or form a group?

Stefano answers: Marc Anthony and Jennifer Lopez were so great and inspiring. As far as the boy band thing- no way. I am going solo.

Q from BrandenBoozy: What did Ur family say? Did they cook u a huge meal because u got voted off? I'm part Italian and my family will do that for me.

Stefano answers: They probably would have but I was so busy we didn't have the chance. Even though they were here a lot, I really only got to see my family on performance days.

Q from stefanoloverx3: What is the craziest thing a fan has said or done to get your attention?LOVE YOUU! -Melanie

Stefano answers: I did get some pretty crazy gifts. Somebody sent me a bottle of wine.

Q from Brookebreault: Who gave you the most support between your friends and family?

Stefano answers: Everybody has been so supportive. All my friends have really been best friends and with me every step of the way.

Q from Nicole98: You have the most amazing smile ever!! I'm going to miss seeing it every week. What's one song you wish you would have gotten the chance to sing and why?

Stefano answers: "Me and Mrs. Jones" It's sexy. It's cool, the vibe is cool and it is something I have always wanted to perform. Also my original stuff will be out there soon.

Q from Jessie32: Why did you chose to sing 'Lately' last night as your last song on the idol stage? (good job btw!!--very strong performance)

Stefano answers: If you listen to the words, it just makes sense. Why not go out by singing a song by one of the greatest singers ever in Stevie Wonder?

Q from lalaura: I voted for you every time!!!! You were really good (and wicked cute)haha...whats the first thing you'll do when you get back home?

Stefano answers: I am probably going to have a huge dinner with the family, a nice glass of wine and just relax..that won't be for a while though. She cooks some mean pasta with meat sauce.

Q from Lena16: Your friends teased you for being a flirt- what was the craziest thing you've done to get a girl's attention or a time your flirting backfired?

Stefano answers: Nothing too crazy, I do sing to women. I guess it backfires if they have a boyfriend or something and it was a waste of time...They love "My Cherie Amour" :-)

Q from Jets12: You were great Stefano, so my question is what was your most starstruck moment on the show?

Stefano answers: Probably when I met the judges - they really are the true American Idols.

Q from Disneyanna: You were such a fun person to watch! Was there one performance that really stands out in your mind? Why?

Stefano answers: That "I need you now" performance was so huge for me, kept me in the show and was so important.

ChatHost: Thank you for your time Stefano. Do you have anything else to say to your fans?

Stefano answers: Much love to all the fans. I want them to all be happy about this because I am happy and have my back because I have theirs...

Here is the super, super long conference call interview.

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* Was he surprised when Pia was voted off? “Me and Pia really had a close bond I was really pulling for her and I know how bad she really wanted it. I had never really wanted to be the American Idol it was getting that foot in the door in music industry. I knew how bad Pia wanted to be THE American Idol. I almost wanted it for her more than me. When everything was said and done it worked out for the best. I’m proud of her. She’s going to do work. It was very shocking. It was a shocking moment for the whole world.”

* How music changed his life, “It’s hard to really show your chops on the show. Casey really got to show his musicianship. One thing that I wanted to save and keep close to myself was my original music and my piano playing. That’s something I wanted to bring out and really show the world, and I think it will be very very special. Music has been everything. I grew up playing instruments. I found out I could sing in band, ironically. It spun off from there. I write so much, I cannot wait to start getting some collaborations down. I’ve gotten a lot of great feedback from people in the industry. They have a market for me that’s wide open. I’m really excited and I know I will be doing very well after this.”I

* Did he think he would survive last night? “I had been through that process [being in the b3] so many times, I didn’t think like that at all. I was thinking ‘Ok, if I get through, I got to worry about next week, if I don’t I need to be ready to sing my song, keep my composure and really kill it–give it that last great performance’. I got to lucky number 7. It doesn’t really reflect on who I am as a musician or a performer. It’s one thing you’ve got to remember through this process-it’s a show. Now it’s time for me to move forward and become that footprint that I know I could put on this industry. “

* On James losing it last night after his elimination, “James is a little crybaby (laughs) James is my brother, man. We been roomates since we were in Hollywood. I’m going to be his best man at his wedding. I love him dearly, he loves me. He lost it last night. He was a wreck . I told him ‘just stay focused, don’t even worry about me, I’m going to be fine.’”

* On being tackled by James after his sing out, ” I was a little caught off guard, but I knew it was James right when he hit me, so it was cool.”

* What did he say to James afterward? “I told him not to worry about me. I did everything I set out to do on this show. Every single thing. It’s going to pay off, and I’m going to do great. I told him to keep on focusing on the show and what you got to do. I’ll be back in a couple of weeks. It calmed him down a little bit. We’re brothers for life.”

* One thing he took away from the show, “I came into this knowing exactly who I was , and I stayed true to that this whole time. As far as a musician goes, as far as a performer, I’ve learned so much from Jimmy, I’ve learned so much from the judges, everybody has helped me get to this point. I’m ready to take the next step and use that in the big picture.”

* What does he have that will make him successful, “Everything is timing in this world. Right now there’s a market for what I do. The producers know it. My management knows it. And I know it. It’s cool to get that acknowledgment. The judges came up to me and said the same thing. I’m ready to pounce on it. I didn’t get the opportunity to really show who I was on the show. As far as a musician and as a performer, I wasn’t able to really showcase everything that I had. Partially because I chose to do it that way, and partially because when you’re going up there singing covers for a 1:30, it’s kinda hard to show what you got. I’m going in a different direction than any American Idol really has in doing collaborations with rappers, and getting in the game quick and fast and having that swag that will get me further. I have the resilience and I have the will power and the fight that will get me far in this industry.”

* Has he heard from any rappers who are interested in working with him? “Oh yeah. I’m ready, I’m set. I can’t wait to start working.”

* Was he bummed that Casey got to kiss Jlo first? “No man. That’s cool for Casey. I’m glad. It’s probably the first kiss he’s had in a long time (laughs) so I ain’t mad at him.”

* Was it fun to see the eliminated contestants again? “It was really cool to see everybody come back and get to have that one time when you’re sitting in the green room all about to go on stage one last time together. Everybody is so cool and amazing in their own way. Just to be around that talent and the great passion we all have and that love for the music. Unbelievable.

* Did he get to meet Mark Ballas? “I met Mark Ballas last week on a dress rehearsal. I went out and introduced myself. Really cool guy.”

* How grueling was the schedule? “We were 7 days a week, every day. We’ve never had a day off. That’s the industry, that’s the business. That’s everything we’ve wanted. If you get 4 or 5 hours of sleep, that’s hot, that’s good stuff right there. It’s star school. This is preparing you for what you got to do. It’s really prepared us for what’s to come. It’s so amazing.”

* On their daily schedule, “‘Dreadful day’. When there were a lot of us, the ‘dreadful days’ would be either the days with Jimmy, because we’d all have to rehearsals, we got to meet with him, we got interviews. That’s probably around a 16-17 hour day. Then you also have the Ford shoot videos which is also another 16, 17 , 18 hour days sometimes. It’s a lot of hurry up and wait. You never know when you are going to go on. Mentally, you have to stay awake all day–you never know when you’re going to have to turn it on.”

* Who does he think is his fanbase? “When I start doing my music–fans of music. If you really appreciate–it’s hard because I haven’t gone and done my original stuff, I havent’ gotten behind the piano and really shown what I have vocally–I could really get behind the piano and show my voice in a different tone. That John Legend/Stevie Wonder kind of thing. It’s cool, because there’s that Bruno Mars thing that’s going on right now, but there’s not really a high John Legend/Stevie Wonder thing right now, Justin Timberlake kind of feel–noone’s really tapping into that game right now. That’s one thing I’m going to really try to get into and really make a mark.”

* Why did he choose the Smokie Norful gospel song in Hollywood? “I am a spiritual man, at that moment in time, I needed everything. I needed to shine, I needed to let him shine through me with everything that I had. It was a moment where I was really pleading ‘I need him now’. It was a really special moment for me. It was a special moment for the people watching. I got to number 7 and I’m so blessed for that.”

* What did he talk to the judges about after his elimination last night? “Just to have the acknowledgment from them['Hey, if you keep on working like you're working here, and getting better and better, you're going to do something.' Having that acknowledgment from them...from the producers and Interscope--knowing that I have the support from people in the industry that actually know the business--that's something special. Jennifer--we're really close, I'm really close with Mark. I respect both of them as people and as musicians. They guided me so well through this experience. Randy and Steven--It's just been great and they've really helped me and acknowledged the fact that 'look, you can do this and go get 'em.'"

* What are his plans? "I am staying in LA. I'm going to be working, I'm going to be getting all my stuff right. I'm not going to be coming home [to Seattle] for awhile. I’m going to be busting my butt until we have the finale, and I’m really happy that I got this time. I got 5 weeks where I can network, where I can hustle. I have a lot of stuff lined up and I’m really excited. “

* Where any of his bubbles burst through the process? “If you’re going to be in this industry you can’t be ignorant. It’s cutthroat. Knowing that coming in, I don’t think I was surprised or taken back at all. I’m too positive of a person to really get affected by anything like that. Everything that has happened to me, has led me to this moment.”

* Did it ever occur to him to play the piano? Especially after the praise Casey got for being a ‘real artist’? “A lot of my decision making was based on what I want to do after this. A lot of the songs that I picked were songs showing the people who I am going to end up working with after this who I am as a musician, who I am as a singer. I don’t want to be remembered as getting on the piano and having 20 million plus people see me getting on the piano doing a cover. I want people seeing me getting on the piano doing my songs, singing my heartfelt real songs that came from my soul. When I do bring that out, it’s going to be that much more taken in and ‘Wow. That was something really special’. I want to save that moment for myself. There’s so much scrutiny, and so much judgment on what we do. Everything, every song–I didn’t want to have anything to do with that part of my musicianship. I didn’t want to deal with it. You have to remember that it’s a show. When I’m off this show, which I am now, I’m going to really show the world, not just what I can do on American Idol, but what I can do in the music industry–what kind of impact I can make.”

* What did he sing at his cattle call audition in SF. Was he nervous? “I took a chance, and I wasn’t really nervous or scared. I had a great time and meeting James after that, we both came from San Fran. It was an awesome experience. I never really got nervous until I got on that TV knowing it was live television. That was kind of hard first couple of weeks, but I got in the rhythm, and I started getting used to it.” He sang “I heard it through the grapevine” & “Just the Way You Are.”

* Would Jimmy make a good judge? “Possibly, yeah. Do I think Jimmy would do that? No. That’s not how Jimmy rolls. Jimmy’s the man. He knows what he’s doing in his business. He works with the artists one on one. In my opinion, he’s not the one to get in front of a million people–I’m not saying it’s fake or anything–Jimmy’s real. If you’ve seen the videos–he’ll get on you. I don’t think that’s the best for what the show is looking for.”

* What is his music going to be? “How versatile I am–just because I’m working with rappers–you’ve got John Legend who has worked with Outkast and Kanye. That’s really the soul–that’s where I’m going to go. I have the range of Stevie Wonder, that’s why I threw his name in there. I have that range and I have that soul–especially when I get on the piano that people haven’t seen yet. It’s that John Legend feel. Being able to work with rappers and having the swag to write–I used to do that in Seattle, I used to write choruses and hooks for rappers–I have a lot of stuff in the bag that I haven’t really shown yet. That’s the market that I’m going to hit.”

* Does he think that being a judges pick vs being voted in put him behind? “Possibly it did. But at the same time, it went from 24-13. You can’t really dog yourself for that. That’s the biggest cut ever on the show at that point. It was hard for the American public to really see what you had to make the Top 10 that fast. To get that opportunity? Was unbelievable. I made the best of it. That’s why I got this far.”

* Did he feel himself improving and getting better as the competition went on? “Oh yeah. That was one thing the producers also saw–I suck in everything that the say. I listened and I execute. That’s really my main thing. You have to get better and better and better. That’s one thing I felt like I really did. I didn’t reach that point where I wasn’t going to show anything that I didn’t have. Jimmy knows that I soak up everything that he says. I love the advice. I take everything that they say to me to heart and I work on it.

* Any discussions with Interscope about a recording contract? “Not yet. No.” Is it possible? “Possibly.”

* How hard was it when they started harping on his keeping his eyes open? How hard was it to change? “Very hard. It’s crazy, when I first started singing it was all behind the piano. I never had to worry about keeping my eyes open to sing to somebody, because I was just grooving on my piano and getting in to it. My eyes would always be shut. They didn’t feel like I was in to it–but my eyes are closed because I’m so into the song. I learned that that’s not what connects to the people. That’s what really got to me. I really worked on it. I just started getting it. Now I feel that’s one of my strengths. I can really look into that camera–use my big eyes to get the words across and the feeling across.”

* How did he practice? “It’s just repetition. I’d go to the gym and I would just practice in front of the mirrors. If you go up on that stage thinking about it too much, you’re done. But if you go up there and thinking about it not at all, then you’re going to lose it. You’ve got to have a happy medium in there and know what you got to do to execute before you go on stage.”

* How did he feel about his elimination? “I was completely at peace and at ease. I knew what it was, and it’s not worth stressing out about when you’re up there. It was a perfect time to go out, really. If I’d got through, then I would have really wanted to make it through #5, with the contestants in there-I thought it was a harder task. It was better to go out here than get to 6 and not get to #5. Perfect way to go out, I’m so happy that it was 7 and I’m so happy that I got to get a foot in the door of the music industry.”

* Did his DUI arrest cause his bottom 3 appearances? “Probably just a coincidence. Everybody goes through struggles in their lives. Everything that happened to me, led me to this point, led me to this moment. There’s no regrets there, and there’s nothing to hide. It is what it is and I did everything that I needed to do. It’s actually not even a DUI. Everything worked out. I’m just so blessed to be here. I’m so happy that everything happened the way it did, because I wouldn’t be sitting here in this beautiful moment on this phone with you guys right now.”

* Is there anything he would have differently? “I wouldn’t have changed anything. Maybe on one week when I did “Hello”. Picking a song that I had no idea—I had never heard the song before. I was kind of pushed to do–I did it, in my opinion, vocally at a very high level. It was that performance aspect–I think I was so into making it right–remembering the words and remembering the notes–that’s where I really lost there. Other than that, I planned everything that I wanted it to turn out. I did all the songs based on what I wanted to do after this competition and what kind of sound I wanted. It’s been a great journey, man.”

* How long before he wins a Grammy? “a year—two years.”

* Who he would like to collaborate with, “Where to start. I’d love to sit down with Bruno Mars, John Legend. I’d love to sit down with Kanye and see what’s up. Lil Wayne. My father–I write so much with my dad, I wanna perform with my father. There’s so many artists I would love to hook up with I’d love to meet with Usher and pick his brain for a little bit. Ne-yo, the producers that I’ve worked with. I’d like to get more time with them–and I know I will. There’s so many things that are going to open up for me and I can’t wait for these collaborations to start.”

* Is there anything he’d like to tell his fans? “Just to be happy for me, and to really soak in this moment like I am. I had the most amazing time and did everything that I came out here to do. I just want them to know that and not to feel upset. Everyone has an opinion, don’t feed into the negative stuff ’cause it’s not even worth it. There’s more positive than negative. I’m happy, so they should be happy too.

* Does he think the guys have an advantage over the girls? “I do and I don’t. One part of me says ‘I do believe that whole girls’ theory–it’s kind of obvious there’s more women watching the show than men–not a lot of the girls are going to vote for the girls. The thing that sways me away from that is knowing…everyone had their own sound and niche–that’s what’s interesting. We don’t know the vote–we don’t know who is winning each week. We don’t know what people really want to hear. It’s really tough to say. I have no idea how they would change the voting up. Best of luck to them on that one.”

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What the heck?????????? yes I said cry foul but I said it as just a saying. I didn't see anything wrong with it. I wasn't accusing anybody I wasn't doing anything. Yes call me freaking confused I won't say anything anymore cause now people are upset and that is not what I was trying to do. I just didn't want anybody getting upset with James again when he was doing something sweet. Sorry again I will shut up now.


Shannon

Angel, I understood perfectly what you meant and that's why I agreed with you. We were both only saying we didn't think it was odd at all. I'm sorry it was taken for more than what was intended on all accounts.

I know you haven't been around much today but have you gotten to see or read all of the stuff on Stefano? I brought a lot over. He's going to be on Leno tonight. (I think.) I'll be sure to bring the video over when there is one.

teddyhugz wrote:

Angel, I understood perfectly what you meant and that's why I agreed with you. We were both only saying we didn't think it was odd at all. I'm sorry it was taken for more than what was intended on all accounts.

I know you haven't been around much today but have you gotten to see or read all of the stuff on Stefano? I brought a lot over. He's going to be on Leno tonight. (I think.) I'll be sure to bring the video over when there is one.

Thanks for your post Teddy.

FC if you see this just like i said in my last post I didn't mean anything by what I said I wasn't mad I wasn't jumping on you I was just posting something. If I should check out definitions of things before I say them maybe I will start cause I just wrote it and didn't think there was anything wrong with it. I am still confused with all this. Sorry that there was a misunderstanding and people got upset.

Teddy no I have not seen everything you posted I will check it out in a bit. Thanks for posting it.

Shannon

Your welcome.

teddyhugz wrote:

Angel, I understood perfectly what you meant and that's why I agreed with you. We were both only saying we didn't think it was odd at all. I'm sorry it was taken for more than what was intended on all accounts.

If you don't find it the least bit odd, does that mean if you were to get married you would choose someone you've known for a couple of months over your sister or long time friend to be your Maid of Honor? I'm just curious, because I just don't get it. If I was a brother (and I don't know if James has a brother) or a long-time close friend of his, I'd be hurt that I wasn't chosen.

I think it's fantastic they are good friends though.

Sky wrote:

teddyhugz wrote:

Angel, I understood perfectly what you meant and that's why I agreed with you. We were both only saying we didn't think it was odd at all. I'm sorry it was taken for more than what was intended on all accounts.

If you don't find it the least bit odd, does that mean if you were to get married you would choose someone you've known for a couple of months over your sister or long time friend to be your Maid of Honor? I'm just curious, because I just don't get it. If I was a brother (and I don't know if James has a brother) or a long-time close friend of his, I'd be hurt that I wasn't chosen.

I think it's fantastic they are good friends though.

I am choosing my words very carefully here.

I don't find it odd cause I have seen it many times. I know this one woman who got very close to a woman she had met a christan,(sp?), retreat. Well the woman got engaged and she asked the woman who she only new for four months to be her maid of honor. She said she picked her cause they connected big time and have a spiritual bond. She had her other friends as Bride Maids. She didn't have a sister or cousins. Another Lady picked one of her coworkers that she had worked with for about 6 months and she didn't have brides maids. She and her fiance had a small wedding. Not all do it but there is some that do. As long as you are at least friends I think it should be the choice of the Bride and Groom who they want to pick. I was in my Cousins wedding and I wasn't the maid of honor but a Brides Maid. She picked her stepsister to be that. I wasn't mad that she picked her even though some people I know asked why would she pick her when she has known you longer. I pretty much grew up with her. I said it is okay cause I am just honored to be picked to be in the wedding. It was a big honor for me. I am honestly starting to have trouble trying to make my point so I am going to stop now cause I honestly do not want to say something that is going to hurt somebody or make someone mad cause that is what I do not want to do. Hope this makes sense.

ETA: I know this one guy who chose a fraternity brother of his cause he was tired of his best friend and brother getting into arguements about who was going to be his best man.

Shannon

You answered it very well, Angel, thank you.

At least you didn't ignore the question or post.

In some of the cases though you say....

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I was in my Cousins wedding and I wasn't the maid of honor but a Brides Maid. She picked her stepsister to be that.

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I know this one guy who chose a fraternity brother of his cause he was tired of his best friend and brother getting into arguements about who was going to be his best man.

I agree that the choice is solely with the bride and groom as to who they choose and I can see choosing someone else if you don't have a sister/brother (whom you get along with) or a long-time close friend. I think someone's life circumstances play a big role in why one chooses who they choose. It's their choice, but I still find it odd. Do you know if James has a brother he is on good terms with or any long-time close friends?

Maybe James doesn't have anyone he's that super close with as he obviously seems to be super close with Stefano. I said before these kids go through a lot and the experience brings them together in ways that I bet nothing else has ever brought them together with someone else before this competition. They form lifelong friendships. They get as close as brothers and sisters do. Perhaps even more than that. The bonds run deep for some of them. If I felt even half of the connection these two guys seem to have with one another and formed it with someone despite it only being in a matter of months sure I might do the same thing. I wouldn't say I'd do it for certain because I'm not in that position. However, I can understand and clearly see these two share something incredibly strong and tight. It is for that reason I don't find anything odd about James asking Stefano to be his Best Man. It doesn't matter to me that it's only been five months. The bond they have and share is what truly tells the story. That's enough for me.

Sky wrote:

You answered it very well, Angel, thank you.

At least you didn't ignore the question or post.

In some of the cases though you say....

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I was in my Cousins wedding and I wasn't the maid of honor but a Brides Maid. She picked her stepsister to be that.

and

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I know this one guy who chose a fraternity brother of his cause he was tired of his best friend and brother getting into arguements about who was going to be his best man.

I agree that the choice is solely with the bride and groom as to who they choose and I can see choosing someone else if you don't have a sister/brother (whom you get along with) or a long-time close friend. I think someone's life circumstances play a big role in why one chooses who they choose. It's their choice, but I still find it odd. Do you know if James has a brother he is on good terms with or any long-time close friends?

Just so it is known even though it is her stepsister she has only been that for like 10 years. I have known her since she was 4 and I was 7,(I am 39 now so as you can see it is a long time). I am her step cousin by the way but we both see us as just cousins cause we have been each others family for soooooooooooo long. Anyway as I said it was not a big deal to me if I was picked to be bridesmaid, flower person, maid of honor or what not. It was just an honor she came to Santa Maria invited me and my family out to dinner and then her asking me to be in her wedding. My whole family knew she was going to do this but they wanted it to be a surprise so they let her personaly ask me. It was the first time ever for me being in a wedding.

ETA: I have not a clue if James has a brother or a big time close bestie.

Shannon

teddyhugz wrote:

Maybe James doesn't have anyone he's that super close with as he obviously seems to be super close with Stefano. I said before these kids go through a lot and the experience brings them together in ways that I bet nothing else has ever brought them together with someone else before this competition. They form lifelong friendships. They get as close as brothers and sisters do. Perhaps even more than that. The bonds run deep for some of them. If I felt even half of the connection these two guys seem to have with one another and formed it with someone despite it only being in a matter of months sure I might do the same thing. I wouldn't say I'd do it for certain because I'm not in that position. However, I can understand and clearly see these two share something incredibly strong and tight. It is for that reason I don't find anything odd about James asking Stefano to be his Best Man. It doesn't matter to me that it's only been five months. The bond they have and share is what truly tells the story. That's enough for me.

Obviously, he doesn't. Geesh, not a big deal I was just curious and found it odd. JMO